Think about it, when you meet someone for the first time and you are interested in them, you probably want to get to know more about this person. Pheromone attraction will almost always happen within the first few seconds of meeting.
Why do you only have a few seconds? Well, you can blame pheromone evolution for that. Tens of thousands of years ago, humans developed the ability to produce pheromones for sex. Bottom line, a woman will decide if she’s going to sleep with you within the first few seconds of meeting you. It depends greatly on whether she is attracted to your pheromonal scent.
Whether you call it thin slicing, gut instinct, or women’s intuition, it happens immediately and often on an unconscious, irrational level. That’s why the approach is so important. But you don’t have to be Dr. Cal Lightman to make this work for you. Just make a good first impression; it’s little more than the most rudimentary hack for thin slicing. And I’m going to show you how.
Pheromone Behavior Explained
Excessive aggressive pheromone behavior is poison for social interaction. It makes you appear low-value and puts a great deal of pressure on other people. They can tell you’re looking to them for something, but they don’t know what it is and they’re a little put off that you’re looking for anything from them in the first place. If, however, you interact in a playful banter with the other person, you don’t need anything from him or her. You’re getting everything you need from yourself.
You’re giving yourself all the approval that you need. This attitude will create a sense of high value, while also allowing others to relax. You aren’t trying to get their approval, so they don’t have to worry about whether or not they “have” to give it to you. Finally, acting like you’re already a bit chummy helps with the “fake it until you make it” concepts discussed throughout this book. Acting as if you two are already close won’t instantly create closeness.
By using pheromones, you can elevate your social status around women and increase the chances of attraction and sexual arousal.
I believe that the best way to begin to connect with someone though pheromone usage is to show interest in them after you have built some initial attraction through a solid approach and banter. That is why this step is the transition between attracting and connecting. It allows the other person to know you are actually interested in them and helps you build rapport on a solid foundation. Think of qualification as a gateway to further interaction. The problem with this mindset is that it makes it very hard for the other person you are dealing with to know if you are being real or simply playing with them.
Let the pheromones do the work for you and you will be pleased with the outcome.
Pheromones In Action
With pheromones, the ultimate goal is to get her to qualify or sell herself to you. This indicates that the typical process – you chasing after her – has been reversed and she’s now chasing after you. Pheromones are a hot commodity for those who are interested in dating and making women more attracted to them.
Meet Women With Pheromones
A great way to do this is with leading questions regarding pheromones, ones that invite her to qualify herself. When done well, she won’t notice. It will just seem like a natural part of the conversation. The key to asking leading questions is to preface them with some kind of vague qualifier.
This can be just about anything, provided that it is general and you actually mean it. Once you get a feel for qualification, you can start using your own questions. They will be more effective because they come from the heart. But for now, take one of mine, make it your own and use it until you get more comfortable with this part of the process.
Keep the idea of showing interest in your pheromones so that when banter and teasing work out well you let her know you are interested. Remember once you get some smiles, reciprocating banter, and positive body language, you know the banter is working. When things are moving well let her know you think she’s cool or that she’s rad and you dig it. Anything that shows appreciation for her pheromone perfume is good participation.
This is where both creativity and connection are born. When you open up and speak from an emotional foundation you are open for a pheromone communication connection. Through leading the pheromonal interaction, you will create a space for the other person to then open up on a deeper level and you begin to develop trust for one another.
It takes practice and can be a bit intimidating because when you allow yourself to be vulnerable to her pheromone perfume as you put yourself at risk for ridicule. If you are not comfortable with yourself, it is going to be a hard thing to do.
Mutual Pheromone Attraction
The good news is that we are opening up after we have built mutual pheromone attraction for one another through banter and qualification. The more comfortable you are at expressing yourself, the easier it is to connect. However, the process is set up to first allow you to be playful and break the tension before you completely open up.
If you have followed the steps correctly, you will have begun to build mutual attraction and rapport can solidify those feelings for you in the other person. Putting yourself out there means risk, which is scary because it is the unknown but without taking risks, you will often be closed off from the genuine pheromonal connection.